Yearning for and needing others

The past fourteen years I have lived all over the country and I've come to greatly yearn and value close friendships.

First, it was because of my dad's job, leaving the comforts of 'sweet home, Alabama' as a teen, relocating to the 'middle of nowhere, Indiana'. Later, moves happened regularly due to my hubby being in the Navy, and I've now lived in more zip codes than I care to remember. The moves have highlighted one of the biggest voids we all need filled: friendship.

Sometimes it's easy to take our friends for granted. Sometimes we fail to build those friendships, CHOOSING isolation when we feel like we're hurting, busy or full of stress. Realizing a void in our friendships can occur when we suddenly experience major trials or tragedy, and simply need someone to lean on. 

In our deepest heart, we all have a need for super-close, call in the middle of the night, think on the same wave length, ingrained in my life and I in theirs, friends. Deep fellowship is a comfort. Proverbs 27:9 compares the pleasantness of a friend to a nice smelling perfume. The bible teaches that God made us for fellowship, to "carry each other's burdens" (Galatians 6:2) and to serve alongside each other, and "do life" together (Proverbs 17:17, Acts 2:44).

There's moments where we find ourselves outside those comforts, and it hurts to feel alone. The seasons of our lives where we long for connection can motivate us to seek and find outstanding friends. Moving so many times has taught me that friendships are truly among the most important things in life, and we need to be intentional about cultivating and maintaining our connections.

Whatever state we find ourselves in, whether rich in friendships or hungry for connection, when we start recognizing the importance and value of people, life will go much better. Isolation has impacted the lives of many of us, but doesn't need to persist and last forever. Let us all seek and grow outstanding friendships to live life to the fullest.

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